It’s 7 am. I’m 3 cups deep, already staring at an empty coffee pot, and my toddler is screaming for more yogurt and pancakes. The little warrior has stripped down, painting his body with yogurt. What is going on? I need more coffee. I can feel the adrenaline surging through me. I can barely think it’s so loud. I’ve got a 2 week-old, a 20 month-old, and myself to keep alive right now and we are struggling. Today, we’ve decided to go and visit our friends. I just keep staring at my coffee and then at them. Back and forth. My head is pounding from not having enough time to eat and I don’t know why we decided leaving was a good idea, but we did.
First of all, this was a silly adventure because walking after you have a baby and lots of stitches is the worst idea. So is sitting. Don’t do it. Lay down and take some Tylenol — the strong kind you need a prescription for. Call people and tell them to bring you coffee.
Second of all, getting a toddler, a newborn, and your stitched-up self into a car all by yourself is the equivalent of running a relay race. I think I burned 1000 calories on this particular morning.
We all got in the car safely. I don’t even remember how. I think I blacked out somewhere during this process, but I know we made it because we were buckled in and I was driving down the road. However, I couldn’t even sit correctly, so I had to kind of lean to the side and sit on my hip — because, well, stitches. When we got to our friend’s home, the toddler had stripped himself of his shoes and socks, and his shirt was on the way out, so I got to re-dress him. And by now it’s raining like Seattle likes to do. It’s always really fun to try and clothe a wild monkey in the rain. I try to keep him from running away while I grab little peaceful sleeping newborn from the car, which of course wakes him up.
Then the real fun began. Leaving the house is like a marathon. Heck, life with kids IS a marathon.
When we finally got inside, we were of course welcomed with open arms by our lovely friends. They clearly knew we were struggling, but for some reason I try and pretend like we aren’t because that’s all I know how to do at this point. Sweet baby keeps crying, so I try and feed him. Except it’s very hard to breastfeed a floppy new baby, who doesn’t quite know how to do that yet, all while trying to look like you know what you’re doing and pretending you didn’t just get spit up on because it’s your second and you’re supposed to have it together. And you have to keep your wild warrior of a toddler from a) falling down the stairs, b) breaking something, or c) hurting the other child. We attempt to have a semi-coherent conversation, which makes me feel like I’m a sane human being. Even though I’m not.
It is so fun and exciting to get out of the house and have adult conversations, but we are barely holding it together. Just swimming frantically beneath the surface trying not to drown. On this particular morning, I believe I peed my pants, had a power struggle with my wild warrior son about cleaning up the magnets (he won), spilled water down my shirt, and said a lot of things that made no sense. All in the presence of our friends. This, dear ones, is how life goes now. Clearly, we are rocking life.
I share this story with you all because I don’t think I’m the only one who feels like she is running at 1000 miles per hour. I mean, taking care of kids is tough work and who am I to tell you that you need to work out even MORE on top of that?! Rude, right?
Today, instead of me sharing with you why a fitness routine actually is important (more on that to come, I promise), I want to share with you everything you ARE already doing even if you never workout. You’re doing amazing Mama, and I want to commend you on all the calories and tough stuff you’re doing each day!
Below is a rough break down of calories moms burn each day. Numbers are based for a female weighing 150lbs and will obviously be slightly different for you.
20 ways you are burning calories ALREADY:
- Breastfeeding- 300-500 calories a day
- Chasing kids up and down stairs (12 minutes) – 60 calories
- Standing (10 minutes) – 11 calories
- Getting clothes on kids (15 minutes)- 26 calories
- Laundry (15 minutes)- 17 calories
- Dishes (10 minutes)- 22 calories
- Pregnancy- When you’re pregnant you are burning calories at a slightly high rate!
- Sleeping- 63 calories per hour
- Pushing a stroller (one hour)-176 calories
- Grocery Shopping (one hour)- 88 calories
- Cooking Dinner (15 minutes)-17 calories
- Cleaning up after dinner (15 minutes)- 34 calories
- Playing with your kiddo (20 minutes)- 78 calories
- Dance Parties (15 minutes)- 88 calories
- Picking up toys (10 minutes)- 29 calories
- Carrying baby in carrier (one hour)- 211 calories
- Brushing teeth (6 minutes) – 20 calories
- Driving (30 minutes) – 62 calories
- Reading (20 minutes) – 20 calories
- Bathtime (15 minutes) – 62 calories
That’s roughly 1350-1550 calories per day just keeping everyone alive! Basically Mama, you are doing an incredible amount of work each day! Be proud of all you do.
I used this awesome calculator on Health Status to find these approximates.
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